Wow! Parenting can be a challenge at times. Honestly, I think having three kids the same age makes it even harder. I could be wrong, but it sure feels like it sometimes. Having children in general is hard, so I definitely don’t want to make a parent of singletons feel bad since it’s hard for them too.
Sometimes with triplets you miss different struggles because they help each other so much. I had one of those experiences just the other day. I was helping each child individually do their homework. They were separating, counting and writing down the quantity of each different type of coins. Easy right? Wrong. Very wrong.
Maggie and I did her homework. Quick. Easy. No problemo!
Then, Evie and I started on her coins. She separated the coins without a problem. She counted the quarters. There were four. No problem. There were nine dimes. Then we got to the pennies. Evie started counting. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 14. Stop. She missed 13. I nicely told her she missed a number. She began to cry saying she didn’t know the correct number. I didn’t believe her. Bad mom. She cried. I got frustrated. She got frustrated. I finally stopped her homework and went on to Josh. I just couldn’t believe she didn’t know her numbers. I thought a little time away might help her remember the number 13.
After Josh finished his homework, as a group we all counted to fourteen. I decided a little sibling help may just be what we needed. Phew. We did it. Then we did it two more times. Evie finally finished her homework and said the number thirteen before fourteen..
I emailed their teacher and told her of the awful experience we had with the homework. That’s when I learned what I had been missing. Evie is really struggling with her numbers. I have never noticed because the other two have always filled in the blanks for her. I had never noticed.’
How could I have ever missed that one?????
I felt so guilty. Not just guilty that I got frustrated with her. I felt guilty I missed such an obvious challenge for one of my kids.
Now I know I can’t feel guilty. I have three five year old kids. It’s hard to follow every single thing each of them do. That is why I send my kids to such an amazing school. It’s a community. It’s a covenant family. The teacher is able to tell me specific struggles I may be missing. I have a teacher with whom I can email at 3 a.m. and tell her the struggles we are having…..and get a response in less than 12 hours. I have friends who encourage me. My kids have so many people who love them, work with them and pray them daily. It’s amazing how helpful this community is to me and our family. I’m still learning. My kids are definitely learning. And we are being loved and prayed for every step of the way!
I love you all.